Sailor’s Rest Airbnb Johns Island South Carolina

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What a joy, to return to the Charleston area recently. I traveled to that charming, historic city for the first time last September, so there was a sense of familiarity this visit. However, this trip also provided opportunities for new experiences, something I dearly love.

Sailor’s Rest Airbnb served as home base for this adventure. Located on Johns Island, just outside of Charleston, this incredible property housed me during my stay and also offered beauty, sanctuary and restoration.

I’m excited to share this gem with you!

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The Story Behind Sailor’s Rest Airbnb

Neil and Ginny lived aboard a sailboat in the Caribbean and Bahamas for many years, island hopping and flowing with the ocean currents, literally. With hearts turned toward helping others, they sailed where they were most needed and gave freely from their resources and wisdom.

After daughter Sarah arrived, they decided to settle on Johns Island, South Carolina, to establish a permanent home and raise their child.

Neil and Ginny built a house reminiscent of those on the islands they so loved. They occupy the upper floor of the round house and offer the lower level as an Airbnb. Sarah co-hosts the Airbnb with her mother Ginny, while Neil continually works on the grounds, creating a hidden oasis.

Together, through Sailor’s Rest, they beautifully fulfill their desire to offer the gift of hospitality to others.

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Welcome to Sailor’s Rest Airbnb. I smiled over this sweet message.
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Path winds through the gorgeous property, with a glimpse of the Airbnb in the background.

Sailor’s Rest Airbnb

The Airbnb apartment offers two spacious bedrooms, a full bath, a dining area, living room and a fully equipped kitchen.

As the welcome sign indicates, guests enter through the blue door, where a key awaits on the kitchen counter. The accommodations are all on one level, making it easily accessible.

The apartment is suitable for an individual, couple, two couples, or a family. Plus there’s a portable pack-n-play for a baby along with a highchair and a countertop bathtub. The property is kid friendly.

The apartment feels very secure. And while the owners live upstairs, and may be seen working on the property, they allow guests privacy and the freedom to enjoy the entire property. They are friendly, down to earth people who are willing to chat and share their fascinating story.

Take a Peek Inside

Let me give you a tour of the unique and inviting apartment.

Kitchen

The blue door opens into the large, fully equipped kitchen. To the right is a utility closet with a stacked washer and dryer unit. The kitchen provides everything needed to create meals onsite, with a full sized refrigerator and electric stove, microwave and cooking supplies, pots, pans and utensils. Essentials such as cooking oil, salt and pepper, plates, bowls, glassware and silverware are all there.

A kitchen is so important to me. Sarah graciously shared the location of the nearest grocery store, before I arrived. After dropping off my luggage at the Airbnb, I picked up groceries for my stay. I made full use of this kitchen and enjoyed the large windows above the sink. The views of the gardens and grounds inspired me to carry my meals outdoors to eat.

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Sailor’s Rest Airbnb – full kitchen with a walk in pantry
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What a view during breakfast!

Dining Area and Living Room

A dining area with table and chairs for four opens onto the large patio outdoors. Adirondack chairs in front of a fireplace provide additional seating and make a great spot for reading, sipping wine or toasting marshmallows in the evening.

Beyond the dining area a cozy living room invites guests to curl up with a good book and read or watch television. Artwork by Sarah and Ginny hang on the walls. These beautiful pieces are for sale.

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Dining area sits in front of double glass doors that look out onto the large, flagstone patio with outdoor fireplace. Comfy living room beyond.

Bathroom

The full bath contains a walk in shower. The Airbnb provides conditioning shampoo, shower gel and lotion along with washcloths and towels. A toothbrush/toothpaste set is available if you forget to bring yours. And I found it so helpful that when I needed a small bandaid, the first aid kit in the bathroom had them.

For convenience, a second bathroom and infrared sauna room are located outdoors, between the pool area and covered biergarten. There’s also an outdoor shower by the pool.

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Full bath with walk in shower.

Bedrooms

Two spacious bedrooms offer queen sized beds, closets and dressers with drawer space. I didn’t sleep in the second bedroom, however the bed in the room I slept in was extremely comfortable.

I chose the bedroom with the sliding glass door leading to a private patio…and a hammock! That hammock provided an ideal spot to relax, daydream and read. A table and chairs set on the patio gives another place to dine or sip a cup of hot tea while enjoying the view.

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Bedroom with private patio.
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I think I clapped my hands when I saw the hammock! Enjoyed it very much.

Sailor’s Rest Gardens and Grounds

I’ve stayed at other Airbnbs. However, I’ve never stayed at one like Sailor’s Rest! The property surrounding the Airbnb is whimsical, exotic and so beautiful. I felt like I had an entire lush paradise all to myself.

Paths wind through tropical plants and beneath arbors and trellises covered with flowering jasmine. Water features splash and gurgle. Intimate nooks invite the wanderer to sit and reflect and little surprises wait around every bend in the path. I so enjoyed exploring the grounds and sitting on all the benches, chairs and swings.

Zen Garden and Bistro Table

The Zen Garden with its wall of towering bamboo plants, water feature and stain glass art is a serene place to reflect, meditate, journal and express gratitudes. A perfectly placed bench provides a spot to sit and appreciate the surroundings.

The bistro table set is tucked into a garden space near a play area for children. A cornhole set invites kids of all ages to play.

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Sailor’s Rest Airbnb – Zen Garden
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Bistro table and chairs

Patio Area

Just outside the apartment, the large patio offers multiple places to sit and visit, eat a meal, journal, read or reflect. I loved carrying meals out here to enjoy while surrounded by nature.

Koi fish occupy a large pond on the patio and an outdoor fireplace is the perfect spot for the evening.

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Large patio area just outside the apartment doors makes a wonderful gathering spot.
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Koi Pond
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Such a wonderful spot for sipping wine or hot tea while reading a book.

The Biergarten and Pool

Walk by the fun yellow door and through the passageway to reach the covered biergarten. This space makes a great outdoor dining area, gathering spot or a place to play board games. The outdoor bathroom and sauna are located next to the biergarten.

Follow the path to the pool area for fun in the sun. And rinse off in the outdoor shower after a swim.

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Follow me to the pool!
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Covered biergarten lit up in the evenings. The whole property lights up at night!
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Enjoy a swim in the pool.

My Experience at Sailor’s Rest Airbnb

I’m so grateful for the days I spent at Sailor’s Rest. While I used the mornings to explore Charleston and the islands, I spent my afternoons and evenings at the Airbnb.

The apartment is clean, comfortable and charming. Everything I needed was there to make healthy meals and enjoy downtime.

And the gardens and pool provided hours of enchantment. Creating this post and looking at the photos brought tears to my eyes as I remembered my time at Sailor’s Rest. The warm spirit of hospitality that permeates the property invited me to rest and to focus on myself.

And the beauty of the grounds called to me, “Come play and seek and find”. It was a call I joyfully answered.

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Get a higher view from the treehouse. And there’s a swing below.

Stay at Sailor’s Rest

I don’t want to keep this place a secret! In fact, I want everyone to know about this beautiful oasis on Johns Island.

Sailor’s Rest is conveniently located. Historic downtown Charleston is about a 25 minute drive from the property and the airport, 30 minutes away. I rented a car from the Alamo airport location and drove to Johns Island.

And it’s the perfect vantage point for discovering all that the islands have to offer. See the Angel Tree on Johns Island. Visit the Charleston Tea Garden on Wadmalaw Island. Nearby Freshfields Village is the place to go for shopping and dining. And Kiawah Island offers golf courses and beaches. Watch for my upcoming post for a list of things to do while on Johns Island.

Ready to enjoy a bit of paradise on earth? Check out Sailor’s Rest on the Airbnb site HERE. Plan that trip. Ask me questions about Sailor’s Rest, Charleston or the islands.

And when you visit, tell Neil, Ginny and Sarah “hello” from me!

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All lit up at night!

 


 

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Advantages of Traveling Solo

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Although there’s nothing wrong with traveling with others…family members, friends or colleagues…I believe everyone would benefit from at least one solo excursion in their lifetime.

I’ve experienced incredibly fun trips with family members and group tours. And I look forward to more of those. I’ve also discovered a passion for traveling on my own. My solitary weekend getaways transitioned to flying alone across the US and then solo explorations in beautiful cities.

The advantages of traveling solo inspire me to pack my carry on and head out on more adventures. Perhaps they will inspire you as well!

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Advantages of Traveling Solo

Whether traveling alone or with a group, always plan out a trip and let others know where you will be, your accommodations with contact info and the flight schedule. That provides peace of mind for everyone. It’s good to check in often too with loved ones back home.

I believe travel of any kind is good for the soul. Exploration opens up life by exposing the traveler to different cultures, traditions, places, people and foods. We realize how beautiful the world is and how richly varied.

Solo travel brings additional advantages that can’t be experienced otherwise. Here are seven that I’ve discovered.

Meet New People

When traveling solo you notice other people more than when traveling with others. The focus is outward rather than on a companion.

So you notice the little family traveling with toddlers or the young couple on their honeymoon. It’s natural to smile at the older woman dining alone too in the same restaurant and to strike up a conversation with the young man sharing a seat on the hop on/hop off bus.

Maintaining an attitude of openness and friendliness, if that’s what you desire to do, draws others to you. Take time to get know the staff at your accommodations, the bus and cab drivers, the people in your city tour.

I knew absolutely no one when I arrived in Charleston on my own. And I left feeling like I made friends that I can call upon when I return. Do people express surprise when they find out you are traveling solo? Yes, especially if you are female. And some have opinions about it. Just remember, it’s your adventure. Don’t let someone’s fear about traveling solo sway your intentions.

When I joined a group tour to Magnolia Plantation, I was the only solitary person in the crowd. The rest were couples and families. I enjoyed chatting with some of the other group members. However, one woman took it upon herself to question me continually about why I want to travel solo. I politely answered her questions and then avoided her as best I could. Toward the end of the tour, she singled me out to take photos of her and her husband and chatted like we were old friends. She seemed to finally accept me and my desire for travelling solo.

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Advantages of Traveling Solo – meeting new people on the historical tour

Personalize Your Schedule

Exploring on your own gives you the freedom to create a schedule that fits you precisely. Want to sleep in? Wake up early? Visit every museum in the city? Hike? Walk historic neighborhoods? Find the best eats? You can do all of those things without concern about what others want to do.

If you are a planner, have fun creating an itinerary ideally suited to your interests. And if you are a spontaneous explorer, then head out, get a little lost and see where the path leads.

I LOVE this aspect of solo traveling. There are so many things I want to see and do. Before the trip, I create a personalized itinerary that includes all the places I want to see, the cafés I want to eat at and the photos I hope to capture. There’s no one except me to please, so I fully indulge my curiosity. And I include at least a couple of experiences that I might not normally do, just for the growth factor!

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Advantages of Traveling Solo – personalize your schedule

Go Beyond Your Comfort Zone

Solo travel provides many opportunities for going beyond your comfort zone. Flying or driving alone, staying in an Airbnb or a hotel by yourself, solitary dining, exploring on your own and figuring out how to navigate challenges all move you beyond that comfort zone, especially during the first solo adventure.

It’s so important to choose experiences that take you out of your comfort zone, even if it’s just a step or two over the edge. Stepping out of your comfort zone keeps the brain alert and active. You learn and grow and adapt and gain confidence. And, it’s a key aspect of solo travel.

Choose at least one activity on your solitary adventure that takes you out of your comfort zone. It just might become your favorite memory of the trip.

During the first Charleston trip, I participated in a ghost tour. That part didn’t take me out of my comfort zone. However, experiencing the tour at night and not knowing how far from my accommodations it would end DID move beyond the edges. I knew I’d be walking back to Meeting Street Inn alone. I’m so glad I didn’t let mild discomfort prevent me from going on the ghost tour. It all worked out perfectly, with the tour ending two short blocks from the inn.

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The Hatman features in a popular Charleston ghost story.

Learn More About Yourself

Exploring solo is a great way to build confidence and learn more about yourself and what you are capable of.

From planning the trip to arranging flights and/or rental cars to setting out into the wilderness, city or community on adventures, the experiences give opportunities for growth. You learn what you can handle. Plus you learn more about what you love…or don’t love, what brings you joy and what draws your curiosity.

Spending time alone gives time for reflection as well without the distractions of being with someone else. It’s the perfect time to journal, read, meditate, jot down big ideas, or create art. All of these expressions of yourself reveal more about who you are. Take advantage of the time alone to get to know you…in deeper and more meaningful ways.

One important thing that I learned about myself last year, due to solo travels, is that I prefer exploring cities rather than national parks or wilderness areas.

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Advantages of Traveling Solo – learning more about myself at Culture Boutique Hotel in Springfield

Decision Making Skills Improve

Have you ever experienced this scenario on a shared trip?

“What do you want to do next?” “I dunno. What do you want to do?” And you spend precious time trying to decide where to go or what to do.

During solo travel YOU are the only one making the decisions about what to do next, which site to visit, when you want to take that tour and what restaurant to try.  If you don’t make decisions, it doesn’t happen. And if you change your mind and do something else, no one complains.

Better decision making skills develop better problem solving skills as well. And when something doesn’t work out, you learn to roll with it and move on to another experience, knowing that everything happens for a reason and all happens as it should, at the right time.

Although many people don’t like to dine alone, I find it a fun experience. Sometimes the place I want to try works out. Sometimes, after walking to the restaurant, I discover that it’s closed for an unexpected reason. Or a storm rolls into the area and I don’t make it to ANY of my chosen restaurants. When those things happen, I find another café or wait out the weather.

In Springfield I coordinated a reservation at Café Cusco with afternoon tea at Gilmore’s down the street. I love the feeling of accomplishment that I get when making those arrangements.

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Advantages of Traveling Solo – you learn to make decisions

Power of Anonymity

When traveling by yourself, you get to choose who you want to be…quiet and observant, outgoing and friendly or hysterically funny. No one knows you and there are no expectations about who you are. That kind of freedom can allow a side of you that few see to emerge. You can shine as your true self…or work on discovering who that true self is.

I tend toward friendly and observant. People watching while sitting on a park bench is fun for me. And while I’m not a chatterbox, I do enjoy meaningful conversations with locals and people from other parts of the US and other countries. It’s how we get to know each other and develop connections.

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Advantages of Traveling Solo – shine as yourself while exploring different parts of your personality

Empowering Experience

Solo travel brings fulfillment and empowerment. You learn to plan and execute a trip, meet challenges head on and make decisions. It’s an incredible way to build up confidence and grow as a person and of course, feel empowered to go on another solo trip.

My favorite kind of film is one where the characters’ lives are transformed by their journeys. Solo travel has that power to transform and create change. During my travels, I always leave a place different from the Cindy who arrived. I see the world differently. My life is more expansive and inclusive.

Do You Enjoy Solo Travel?

Do you go on solo adventures? If now doesn’t feel like the right time, don’t rule out the experience for another time in your life. Stay open to possibilities and opportunities. Which of the advantages above appeals most to you?

If you already enjoy solo travel, share with me your favorite experience so far! And have you discovered any other advantages from traveling on your own?

To more adventures, both shared and solo.

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Five Ways to Go Beyond Limiting Beliefs

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Fives Ways to Go Beyond Limiting Beliefs is the final installment in the Going Beyond Series. Check out posts one and two, if you haven’t yet, and then dive into learning about moving beyond limiting beliefs. Of the three…fear, comfort zones and limiting beliefs…this one is perhaps the most challenging to shift.

No worries though. I’ve got you!

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What are Limiting Beliefs?

We all have beliefs. Many we acquire during childhood, passed on to us by others. Or beliefs develop due to an experience, usually a negative one. We hold onto those limiting beliefs…thoughts, convictions or opinions…as absolute truths even when they have a detrimental effect on us.

Common limiting beliefs include:

  • fear of success
  • fear of failure
  • not being good enough or not being enough
  • being unlovable
  • fear of rejection
  • negative associations with money
  • fear of greatness
  • unworthiness
  • believing we have to work very hard for financial gain
  • blaming others for our problems

Our brains work to protect us, at all times. Limiting beliefs do that by preventing pain in the future. When a child touches a hot surface, she learns that hot equals pain. She avoids touching anything hot in the future.

If that child has a parent who passes on a fear of swimming, or she has a bad experience while in a pool, the child carries the limiting belief that swimming and bodies of water are bad and cause pain. She avoids going into the water, even as an adult.

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Five Ways to Go Beyond Limiting Beliefs

Work through these steps for identifying and going beyond the beliefs that are keeping you stuck and keeping you from living the life you desire.

Identify Which Beliefs Hold You Back

The first step to going beyond limiting beliefs is to discover what they are. Once identified, you can overcome them.

Do you want to overcome them? Yes, if they are holding you back and keeping you caged. As I shared in the second post, your comfort zone becomes a cage, with the bars strengthened by limiting beliefs. Fear is the jailor. If you feel stuck, small, afraid or bored with life, it’s time to break out of that comfortable cage by destroying those bars. Fear will bow and step aside.

What are your thoughts about the world you live in? Circumstances seem out of your control. Bad things always happen to you. The world is against you. You don’t have enough time, enough money, enough talent.

What are your thoughts about other people? Does it matter to you what other people think about you? You feel you have to please others, not show up as your true self, hide, stay small. Do you believe that others are out to “get you”?

What are your thoughts about yourself? This is where deep limiting beliefs hide. Do you think you are incapable, unlovable, too old, too young, or that you can’t learn new things? What story do you tell yourself about who you are?

Grab a piece a paper and spend time identifying your thoughts/beliefs about the world, about other people, about yourself.

Real life example

You know that I grew up afraid of the dark. My belief told me scary things hid in the dark and I was not safe. That belief kept me from many adventures because I was afraid to go on sleepovers as a child and afraid to travel as an adult.

The truth is, there ARE things that hide in the dark. At least that is true for me as an intuitive. To overcome the belief that I was not safe, I acknowledged that my spirit visitors don’t hurt me. I am safe, even if I feel surprised or momentarily frightened. I also learned how to clear negative energy from structures and surround myself with divine, protective light. That shifted my fear and my belief with it.

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Five Ways to Go Beyond Limiting Beliefs – identify the beliefs holding you back

Take Responsibility for Limiting Beliefs

When we choose to believe that life just happens to us, rather than for us, we fail to take responsibility for our lives and beliefs.

Believing that life happens for us, for our good, for our growth and development, we can own responsibility for making changes.

Look through the list of limiting beliefs. Where did each one come from? Find the source. Was the belief passed on to you? Did you have a bad experience that birthed it? Ask yourself, “Is this belief really true?”. If you shift that belief, what might happen?

If you wrote down the belief, “I am too old to do what I want to do” then you are allowing a circumstance beyond your control to dictate what you can do or not do. You’ve adopted a limiting belief. You are the age that you are. Accept that. Own it. And shift. “I am the perfect age to do what I want to do”.

Go through the limiting beliefs you wrote down and take back responsibility for them, one by one. Then you have the power to shift them.

Real life example

I dealt with the limiting belief, “I am too old” a few years ago. I began blogging at age 56. What began as a hobby quickly became something else. I wanted to monetize my blogs and social media sites. However, I lamented the fact that I was too old. Nonsense! I took responsibility for that belief. I am the age that I am and I bring lots of life experience to the brands, companies and organizations I work with. For them to believe in me, I must believe in me and make no apologies for my age.

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Five Ways to Go Beyond Limiting Beliefs – take responsibility for beliefs. Pictured, a campaign with Tough as a Mother jewelry

Develop an Alternative Belief

You’ve identified the limiting beliefs. And you’ve taken responsibility for them. Now you are ready to shift them by creating alternative beliefs.

“The world is against me” becomes “The world works for me, for my growth.” “I must work hard for my money” becomes “I fund the perfect life for me and live in abundance.”

Flip the belief. Write them down. Practice believing them by living as if you do. Life shifts, in magical ways, when you shift.

Take each limiting belief on your list and create an alternative one. Adopt it as your belief and put action with it. “I can’t afford to travel” becomes “I can afford to travel” or “I go on adventures”. Plan a trip, even if it’s to the neighboring city. Go on an adventure. Feel all the emotions of that fun trip. And then watch for more opportunities to show up, for more adventures.

Real life experience

I longed to visit Scotland, since early childhood. My first attempt to travel to Scotland cancelled because of my dad’s declining health. And that cancellation almost killed the desire to go, ever. I believed I “wasn’t supposed to travel to Scotland”. How sad.

When the second invitation to visit that beautiful country arrived, I almost didn’t accept it because it showed up in an unexpected way. I realized I needed to shift some beliefs, and quickly! I embraced the alternative belief, “I am traveling to Scotland”. And, “I deserve to visit Scotland.” My father had passed away and my Scottish heritage comes from him. A part of me didn’t believe I deserved to go to Scotland, since he was gone.

Three trips to Scotland later, I’m so grateful that I changed a belief that limited me. And I look forward to more Scottish adventures.

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Five Ways to Go Beyond Limiting Beliefs – develop an alternative belief

Shift Self Talk

One way that we reveal our limiting beliefs is through self talk. Self talk tends to dwell on the negatives. We tell ourselves, “I can’t” “I’m not supposed to” “I must not.”. The more we tell ourselves something, the more we accept that it’s true.

Do you have a constant, negative narrative running in your mind?

Shifting self talk begins with noticing that inner dialogue. Jot down repeating words or phrases that you say to yourself. And then shift those, just as you did with the list of limiting beliefs.

Change “I am stupid for doing that” to “I just learned something important”. Shift “I am not good enough” to “I am perfectly created and growing into my best self”. It might feel strange, but practice saying positive words to yourself in a mirror. Look deeply into your eyes and talk about your gifts, your abilities, your charms…all the good things.

And when you catch a negative conversation starting within, stop it. Undo it. Take it back. And then shift it to the positive and say that instead. Develop affirmations and mantras to counter your most common statements to yourself.

Real life example

I have perfectionist tendencies and hold myself to a higher standard than anyone else does. So a failure can really start the negative self talk. I’ve learned to catch those conversations early and stop them. Sometimes I have to stop them over and over before I can shift them. I see failure as lessons in growth now. And by reminding myself of the lesson or lessons I’m learning, I can halt the inner dialogue that tells me I’m not good enough. Asking myself, “What am I learning here?” is usually enough to shift that negativity.

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Five Ways to Go Beyond Limiting Beliefs – silencing negative self talk

Deal with New Limiting Beliefs Immediately

Finally, deal with any new limiting beliefs that pop up. And how do you know if they are limiting? Because they stop you from growing, from moving forward, from learning new things, from life itself. That’s how you know a sly new belief has taken root.

A new limiting belief is much easier to deal with then one that is deeply entrenched from childhood. Recognizing the new belief, identifying it and its source and shifting it is minor compared with uncovering and changing long-held beliefs. You have the tools now to shift and go beyond.

There’s so much freedom in living with beliefs that truly reflect who you are, how the world is and in realizing that other people’s thoughts and opinions about us don’t matter.

Real life example

I suffered injuries in a major car accident in 1995. The pain in my back, legs, feet and sternum was intense and unrelenting. After years of physical therapy and specialists, and no relief from pain, doctors told me that my condition would worsen in 20 years and I’d eventually lose mobility.

I believed them, adopting their beliefs about me as my own. And guess what? Exactly 20 years later, my condition and health began declining, to the point where I needed a cane to walk and was looking at using a wheelchair. An upcoming trip to Italy with my grandson motivated me to shift my beliefs. And ask for divine guidance. Both led to new ways of thinking, believing and being. I recovered, at last, from my injuries and pain. And my second blog, Journey with Healthy Me, came into reality along with improved health and wellness.

Living Life Beyond the Edges

Living life beyond the edges…of fear, comfort zones and limiting beliefs…leads to a more expansive, adventurous life. And while adventures might include exploring a country, extreme sports and daring deeds they also encompass inner exploration, extreme creativity and doing good deeds. A life lived beyond the edges opens up new possibilities and opportunities because you are unhindered by fears, free from limiting beliefs and continually stepping over the edge of comfort zones.

Are you going beyond?

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How to Be a Good Tourist

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With the first week in May designated as National Travel and Tourism Week, it seemed the perfect opportunity to write a post about how to be a good tourist. Additionally, May 6 is National Tourist Appreciation Day while May 7 is National Tourism Day.

Tourism and tourists are linked, of course. Tourists travel to places away from their homes, for pleasure. Tourism caters to and offers services to those travelers.

As travel cautiously opens back up, after two years of a world wide pandemic, it’s good to remember that we have a responsibility to the places we visit and the people that live there.

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How to Be a Good Tourist

Whether you call yourself a traveler, an adventurer or a tourist when journeying to a destination away from your hometown, it’s important to remember that you arrive as a guest.

Just as you’d mind your manners when visiting in the home of a new friend, being mindful while traveling creates good experiences for everyone.

On your next trip, use these tips to be a good tourist.

Show Respect

While in a different city or country, show respect for the people who live there and their culture and traditions. Before the trip, do thorough research. Follow curiosity. What customs differ from your city or country? Honor those.

Interact with the people there. Ask questions and then listen to their answers and stories. Stay open minded and willing to learn new things. And if a sign says “Don’t touch”, then don’t touch! Obey the rules. Leave prejudices, judgments and limiting beliefs at home.

Tip: Before you go, learn to correctly pronounce city and/or country names. A Scottish friend of mine gently corrected my pronunciation of Glasgow, in Scotland. (It’s glaz go.) I’m so grateful he did! Take the time to learn.

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How to Be a Good Tourist – show respect to people, culture and traditions

Contribute to the Local Economy

While visiting your chosen destination, stay in local accommodations. Eat at local restaurants, shop local, visit area markets, use local tour guides. The money you spend supports the economy and those who work and live in the community.

Favor the independently owned establishments, over franchises and big box brands, when possible, to keep those dollars local.

Tip: Ask the locals where to eat and shop, to find amazing off the beaten path places.

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How to Be a Good Tourist – contribute to the local economy

Embrace Eco-Friendly Practices

Often, the desire to travel and the desire to take care of the planet wage war with each other, as travel can impact the earth economically, socially and environmentally. Some of those impacts are positive. And some, not so much.

Approximately 1.2 BILLION people travel internationally every year…when we are not in a global pandemic. And while travel and tourism contribute to the global economy, it often comes at the expense of the environment and local communities.

Eco-friendly travel encompasses more than just minimizing the impact on the environment. Sustainable travel seeks to create a balance between economic growth, environmental health and the wellbeing of people and communities.

It is possible to reduce the negative impact of tourism while maximizing the positive benefits for cultures, communities, the ecology and ultimately, the planet.

I wrote a post covering eco-friendly travel practices. Check those out HERE.

Tip: While in a city, walk as much as possible, to save fuel and really get to know the community. It’s great exercise for the visitor too. Use the hop on/hop off buses to get an overview of the city or rent bicycles and explore that way.

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How to Be a Good Tourist – embrace eco-friendly practices

Do No Harm to an Area

While exploring a city, a national park or a wildlife area, do no harm. Take out what you bring in. Don’t leave trash behind and better still, pick up any trash that you see.

Never take objects or pieces of structures for souvenirs. Visit a local shop for a wide selection of mementos to purchase and take home. Resist any urge to write or carve on a surface or tree. Don’t purchase endangered species products. And leave flowers and trees growing where they are. Not only is it illegal to transport plants out of a country, you also run the risk of introducing something into your environment at home that can kill native plants.

Tip: Take a photo to remember a beautiful plant or artifact by.

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How to Be a Good Tourist – do no harm

Explore Less Crowded Areas

There’s nothing wrong with seeing the touristy places when traveling, especially when it’s the first time there. However, consider exploring less crowded, less popular areas too.

Overtourism occurs when popular places receive excessive numbers of tourists, creating harmful effects, especially for the locals. Venice, Amsterdam and Barcelona all experience overtourism, causing conflict for the people that live in those cities.

Exploring less crowded, less popular areas helps distribute visitors more evenly and offers new surprises and delights for the tourist.

Tip: Try visiting popular spots during off seasons or hours, if the site is important to you. And then move on to other interesting hidden or lesser known locations. Again, ask the locals for favorite places to explore that tourists don’t know about.

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How to Be a Good Tourist – visit less crowded areas in popular destinations like Venice

Think of Yourself as a Temporary Local Rather Than a Tourist

I love doing this. Behave like a local, rather than doing the touristy things. Talk to people. Share a drink or a meal with locals. Ask lots of questions and really, REALLY listen to the responses. Hang out where the locals go to have fun or relax. People watch. Walk the city or countryside and get to know neighborhoods or the land. Take a class or attend a local festival.

Be mindful of local dress codes and follow them. Learn a few phrases of the language. Yes, no and thank you are good words to start with. And always ask permission before taking a photo of someone who lives in the area. It’s rude otherwise.

Tip: Talk to cab or bus drivers about the best places to hang with the locals. They know their cities well and offer great suggestions.

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How to Be a Good Tourist – being a temporary local at a pub in Dublin, Ireland

Share Your Experiences

You don’t have to be a blogger to share your experiences when you return home. Use social media to promote the small businesses you visited. This encourages others to help out the local economy when they travel there. Leave positive reviews of those businesses on Tripadvisor and Google Maps. Share favorite non-touristy places that you discovered. Tell engaging stories about the people you met, the new experiences you tried, the way you grew as a person because of your travels.

And help people better understand the charm and beauty of your chosen destination. It’s a powerful way to educate people on different parts of the country and the world. Invite them to see the magic through your eyes, with your photos and words.

Tip: Carry along a travel journal to capture notes about your trip so you can share information easily once you return home. Or use the Notes feature in your smartphone.

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I promote the places I visit through social media and blog posts, like this one on Vatican City.

Are You a Good Tourist?

Travel has become a passion for me, whether I’m visiting a new town, exploring a different state or flying across the ocean. And the more I travel, the more I grow and the more I learn about what a good tourist does.

Do you love to travel? Are you a good tourist? Share your favorite good tourist tip in the comments below.

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Try new experiences when you travel.

 


 

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Feel It All Playlist

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Last year, I began working through the companion journal to Glennon Doyle’s bestselling book, Untamed. Get Untamed the Journal is leading me deeper into who I am as I discover new aspects of myself.

One of the exercises in the write-in book is simple and yet profound. It connects me more strongly to my emotions and for me, that is a big deal.

The feel it all playlist is an ongoing activity that helps me to sort through emotions and also access them through the power of music. It’s such a valuable tool that I want to share it with you.

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Why Feel It All?

Psychologists agree that feeling and expressing all of the emotions is healthy. It’s an important part of letting those emotions pass on through instead of getting caught in the region of the heart, where we tend to replay them over and over…or stuff them away.

I learned in early childhood to suppress negative emotions. At the age of four, I decided crying was a waste of time and energy. So literally overnight, I turned off the tears.

The problem with that decision became apparent immediately. If I chose not to cry, I needed to avoid situations that triggered emotions that might lead to tears. I associated anger, frustration, grief, sorrow, pain and sadness with negativity because those emotions might result in crying.

Avoiding them meant that I also avoided watching sad movies. As a child I walked out of a movie theater when Bambi lost his mother in that classic Disney animation, a precedent for passing on future movies dealing with loss. I steered away from confrontations, books in which characters died, sorrowful music and I shied away from people dealing with grief.

As I grew older, I knew my avoidance of what I considered the negative emotions wasn’t healthy. But by the time I reached adulthood, I couldn’t cry if I wanted to. My body shut down the ability to weep and made attempts physically painful. Fear that I might not handle such raw energy caused me to further avoid my negative emotions.

Joy, happiness, excitement, playfulness, anticipation…these positive emotions I expressed fully. However with age, I discovered I needed my other feelings to grow as a person and empathize more strongly with others.

Connecting with Emotion

Fifteen years ago, the journey into all of my emotions began. I wish I could say that I connected with my feelings…both positive and negative…and grew immediately.

No. It’s still an ongoing journey as I move ever more deeply into those long buried emotions and learn that it’s okay to embrace them, experience them…and let them go.

So I was delighted to delve into the Feel it All, Use it All section of Getting Untamed.

Glennon writes:

“When I got pregnant and sober, I was so afraid that actually feeling all of the feelings I’d been numbing for so long would kill me. I needed to practice feeling in manageable bits. Each night after work, I’d lie in bed and play one Indigo Girls song. Nothing made me feel more deeply and widely than the music and poetry of Amy and Emily. I’d lie there, for one song, and listen, and feel and cry.”

Ah. I so identify with Glennon’s words. I used avoidance rather than alcohol, but the numbing effect was the same. And I realize music plays a similar role for me. It allows me to connect with my feelings in a way that bypasses the  safety boundaries I created.

Glennon shares her Feel It All playlist…and her reasons for choosing each particular song. And then she gives an assignment.

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Feel It All Playlist, an exercise in Get Untamed, the Journal.

Create a Feel It All Playlist

Glennon suggests that good music helps us connect with emotions. I agree. Music is extremely important to me. Every day I listen to songs that move me in various ways.

She asks:

“What are the songs that make you Feel It All? Return to your achy, happy, sad, fiery playlist when you need to practice feeling your feelings.”

I love this fun and insightful activity. The journal provides space to list ten feel it all songs with blanks to fill in for each selection.

__(Name of Song)__ reminds me of ______________________________ and makes me feel__________________________________________.

I’m serious about the assignment and I’m taking my time selecting my songs. So far, eight landed on my playlist. The songs are recorded in the journal. And I created a Feel It All playlist on my iPhone’s music app.

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I created an actual playlist with my selections and have it on my phone.

My Feel It All Playlist

Here they are, my eight songs with what they remind me of and what they make me feel:

All of Me by John Legend reminds me of the beauty and magic of intimate relationships and makes me feel sad that it’s difficult to give all of who I am to another and receive the same in return.

Beautiful by MercyMe reminds me of God’s unconditional love for me and that I’m made for so much more than any chaos going on in my life and makes me feel grateful to be so divinely loved.

How Far I’ll Go (Moana) by Auli’i Cravalho reminds me of my yearning to travel and explore and makes me feel determined to keep going toward the distant horizon.

This is Me (The Greatest Showman) by Keala Settle reminds me of the importance of being authentically who I am and makes me feel courageous and powerful in my own skin.

Easy on Me by Adele reminds me of the pain I felt as a young adult and makes me feel I didn’t get the chance to “feel the world around me” because I was so closed off.

Life is a Highway by Rascal Flatts reminds me I’m living in my silver years and makes me feel determined to do what I want to do, NOW!

We Can Do Hard Things by Tish Melton reminds me of how strong I am and makes me feel expansive and committed to my adventurous life.

A Million Dreams (The Greatest Showman) by Hugh Jackman and Ziv Zaifman reminds me of the importance of my thoughts and dreams and makes me feel that I can envision and create the world I want to live in.

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Songs on my list.

Create Your Own Feel It All Playlist

The purpose of the playlist is to listen to the songs often and connect with my emotions. I listen to my playlist almost every day. There’s room on my list for two more songs, although I can add as many as I wish. And I can always swap out songs if I feel another better connects with me.

Would you like to create your own playlist?

What songs are a lifeline to you, when you are drowning in a sea of conflicts? Which song lifts your spirits, every time you hear it? What’s your go to fight song? If your life had a soundtrack, what song best captures where you are in this moment? And when you are feeling life deeply and painfully, which song do you crank up and breathe in?

These are the songs that belong on your feel it all playlist. Keep the playlist on your phone or in Spotify, Amazon Music or YouTube. For added insight, grab a piece of paper and write down what each song reminds you of and what it makes you feel.

And if your current journey includes discovering more about who you are and the life you are here to create, purchase Get Untamed the Journal  by Glennon Doyle. It’s so worth the $13 investment to free yourself to live the life you desire to live.

So, tell me the name of a song that might go on your Feel It All playlist?

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Learning to feel all of my emotions.

 

 

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